The Big 'O'
You're in the mood for love, and your partner is eager to please, but you just can't reach an orgasm.
Time starts to crawl and you try to get it over with quickly, so you do what many women do - you fake it!
The notion that every sexual encounter culminates in an earth shattering climax is a myth that has led many women to believe that something is wrong with them when they do not achieve an orgasm. But orgasms can be learned - we'll show you how.
Different Strokes for Different Folks
Sexual preferences vary from woman to woman, however it is not uncommon for women to be unable to reach a climax by vaginal intercourse alone. Many require a little help in the form of clitoral stimulation in order to come. Other techniques include stimulating the breasts and nipples or even nuzzling the neck.
Several women are ruled by the hormonal ebb and flow of their menstrual cycles. This makes them frisky during certain days and puts them off sex at other times. Such cyclic variations in sexual urge are normal. Mark out your good days and make the most of them.
The Magic of Multiple Orgasms
Yes, it's true! Women are capable of multiple orgasms, especially those in a trusting, happy and relaxed relationship with a partner who is willing to stimulate them repeatedly. Evidence shows that multiple orgasms are more achievable as a woman ages, with it being more common for women in their 40's, 50's or even 60's.
The sensitive but highly elusive G-spot, found on the front of the vaginal wall, is said to trigger an intense orgasm in some women.
I'm Not Coming
There are many ways to enjoy sex! If you're the sort who can't reach a climax easily, these suggestions may help you get back on track:
D-I-Y
In some Asian cultures, sex has dirty connotations and girls are taught to be demure. It is no wonder then that many women are clueless about their own bodies. Sex therapists recommend masturbation to help you discover how you like to be touched and the rhythm which turns you on. Once you know your own body well, you can show your partner how to help you reach a satisfying climax.
Fun with Toys
A vibrator or other sex aids may help some women achieve faster orgasms. This might seem a little embarrassing at first, but you will both get over it. These days, sex aids can even be purchased discreetly online. Ribbed or studded condoms for instance, are said to increase pleasure for women tremendously while providing protection against sexually transmitted infections and unwanted pregnancies.
Mind Over Matter
Mastering the mind can unlock the biggest secret to better orgasms. Women are more easily affected by emotional factors such as stress, tiredness or the lack of reassurance from their partner. They could also feel insecure about how they look or sound in bed.
Here's our advice: Take a deep breath, and let go of your anxieties. Focus on positive feelings of love and romance, and allow these to put you in the mood for sex. Indulge your senses and simply enjoy the moment.
An orgasm is probably the most intimate feeling you can share with your partner. Work at it till you perfect your art of reaching an orgasm, as having one is integral to attaining sexual satisfaction, especially in a long term relationship.
