Hitting the Right Notes
When you met the love of your life, her unique ways turned you on.
Now you've been together for more than a few years and the enthusiasm is fast cooling on the marital bed. On some nights, she'd rather sleep by herself and you wonder why.
Take heart! All it takes is some patience and understanding.
Stimulate the Largest Sex Organ - The Brain
Much of our emotions and thoughts determine our attitudes to sex. It is often said that men give love for sex and women give sex for love. While this is a generalisation, it is true that for many women, sex and love are deeply intertwined.
Simply put, women respond much better sexually when they feel loved and secure. Often, women are not aroused sexually because they feel unattractive, anxious, stressed or lack self-confidence.
To help, you can step up your care and concern:
- Tell her and show her that you find her attractive
- Support and encourage her if she's feeling stressed or anxious about anything
- Boost her confidence by focusing on her strengths and showing you believe in her.
The Best Results Take Time
Leave speed and efficiency to the workplace. In the bedroom, the same attitude is not going to work. You are not competing in a race here.
Biologically, women are wired very differently from men. Most men can get aroused and reach an orgasm in all of 42 seconds. Women, on the other hand, respond best to a generous dose of foreplay. This means spending lots of time touching, caressing and other forms of sexual foreplay to get her sufficiently aroused for intercourse.
For many women, foreplay can be more pleasurable than the act of intercourse itself. So remember to spend more time caressing and touching!
Pressing the Right Buttons
Now that you know foreplay is important to women, you may still need to be clued in on what to do. Does it surprise you to know that women have erogenous zones all over the body?
Many men zero in on the genitals and the breasts. While these are the most obvious erogenous zones, they are not the only ones. Many women find it erotic to have other parts of their body kissed and caressed, such as:
- the ears
- the neck and shoulders
- back of the knees
- the inner thighs
- the butt
Most of these areas are packed with sensory nerves, gently stroking or caressing will set her on the right note! Remember, just don't go overboard-- these areas are very sensitive and being too rough can be a turn-off too.
Be Adventurous!
Try different positions to add variety and excitement. Also, try out different condoms every now and then, particularly those with ribbed surfaces said to increase pleasure for women during intercourse.
Every woman is different, so do explore around and discover what she likes. Communication is key. Encourage her to let you know what feels good. How would you know otherwise?
Check out magazines and the famous Kama Sutra or more exciting information.
Make your sex life sizzle, not fizzle!
